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All dressed up…

October 2, 2010 1 comment

I decided to be more proactive about making friends and getting to know the area.  My plan tonight was to get dressed for going out, walk down to the local bar that both of my siblings have recommended, and have a drink.  It sounded really good as a plan, but I probably should have predicted the reality.

The reality is that busy bars overwhelm me even when I’m meeting someone.  On my own I can’t even go in.  So I turned the corner and decided to walk to a different bar to try my luck there.  I did that for about an hour and a half, walking all the way to Clarendon and back, passing dozens of bars.  Many of them looked like great places to bring a date, grab dinner with a friend, or hang out with a big group.  None of them seemed particularly good for hanging out on my own.

So now I’m back home, looking great, with sore feet and a tired spirit.  I’m not upset with myself – I know I did my best tonight, even though my best is just walking by fun places.  It’s hard to figure out how to make friends though when it seems like the only way to go out is to already have friends.

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Ways of being social

September 28, 2010 Leave a comment

I have little drive day-to-day to leave my apartment and hang out with other people.  I enjoy my own company, rarely feel lonely, and often feel stressed by arranging and following through on social engagements.  I almost always have a great time once I’m out though.  On Saturday, for instance, what started out as an regional alumni club happy hour from 5-7 p.m. ended up with me going out to a new part of the city with a bunch of younger alums, most of whom I’d just met.  I had a great time and really enjoyed their company.  I didn’t think too much of it though until I was telling my brother the story and he said how impressed he was with me for being so open to new situations.  I’d never thought of it as being something that was different about me, but I guess not everyone would have gone along on Saturday.  So this weekend I learned two things – I still love people from my college and I’m not quite as socially helpless as I often think.

Nighttime

August 13, 2010 1 comment

I love walking at night. There’s peace and beauty as the familiar daytime scenery is softened by darkness. Walking at night, I feel cocooned, yet part of the infinite space of the night sky. Eight years on, my strongest memories from college are of walking across the campus at night. Whenever I look up at Orion’s belt, I feel transported back to Magill walk, staring up at the night sky, testing my newfound Astronomy 1 knowledge. In college there was always a reason to walk at night – to visit a friend in another dorm, to get a book from the library, to go see the a capella concert – and it was always safe.

I rarely walk outside at night now though. There aren’t many places I need to go at the end of the day, and if I do need to go somewhere, I usually drive. I walked more in Philadelphia, when I didn’t have a car, but nighttime walking there lacked the peace and security of campus; instead of relaxing into the night, I walked efficiently, alert for risks.

One of the things I loved about being in Cambridge last fall was that I got to be a part of the night again. I walked into town, around town, home from town, in the evenings, usually with friends, but sometimes on my own. I felt safe, as though the city was one large campus, and loved reclaiming that experience.

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